When you do not allow People push You

When people push you; source: Uzochukwu Mike's Zone

What will I do when People push me?

Sometimes in life, our friends, colleagues, follow students may tend to push us to do what we may not like to do ordinarily. Sometimes they do these to know our reactions. And in some other time they do it because they want to make jest of you. They behave as if they know everything about life.

The truth is that as a grown person, you have the right to make your decision. You have the right to choose what you want to do and what you do not want. They may pretend as if they love you but they do not. Sometimes they may jokingly tell you words. They derive joy is displaying some attitude just because they want to see you sad.

If you notice these kind of people in your place of work, you have to follow them with wisdom. You can try to avoid them in some occasions just for you to be happy and good. You do not owe anybody anything before you can be happy, it is your right to be happy.

If you notice that whenever you people hang out to bars for drinks and he derives joy in making jest of you in the front of other people by talking down of you, it is time for disassociation, give him space. He derives joy in making you angry in public. He may make statements like this, "guys do you know that the shoes this our guy Mr James bought since 5 years ago is what he is still wearing till date? Can't you guys see how old the pair of shoe is? This guy is not fashionable at all". He made all these statements just for the guys around to laugh at you.

It is not as if the pair of shoe he was talking about was so old. It is not as if the pair of shoe had stayed up to five years. He just like speaking ill of you when you gather with people. He just wanted to push you. Such person acts as if he is Mr Perfect. He knows everything in the world. To him he is fashionable and derives joy in making you feel low in the front of people. He wanted you to get angry by pushing you. But you do not need to react. It is better to use wisdom to follow such persons. They are arrogant and proud people.

You cannot please Everybody

One thing you should know is that you cannot please everyone. Everyone cannot be pleased with everything you do. Some may hate you for some reasons. The hate may be because you do not support then in every thing they say or do.

Maybe everyone usually support him even when he or she says rubbish in the office. Or you do not adhere to some certain discussions he brings up in the office, he may end up seeing you as a rival. He may see you as a stubborn person who is not loyal to his display and arrogance behavior. As a result of this, he ends up attacking you any time you say something or make some steps.

One thing many people do not understand is that everybody cannot be the same. Everyone can not be supporters to some kinds of behaviours that are not morally right. Because these are the kind of behaviours some individuals possess, they refuse to support stupid behaviours. That is one of the reasons some people are pushed both in offices and other organizations. They may push you but ignore them.

People may push you for reasons. There are reasons they make jest of you; source: Uzochukwu Mike's Zone

Many will not like your Style

When you do not allow people push you, you live a happy life. They may tell you that you suppose to do it this way or that way. You suppose to make it to be of very good standard but you failed to. You should have designed it the other way round. You should have throw that party to appear in a big way. When you do not allow them to push you into that, they become ashamed. Some of them will pretend as if they have good minds but they do not.

They just want to laugh at you when you fail. But when you do not allow all their silly words enter into you, they go home ashamed. Even if they wanted your own party big and you said no, that is your lifestyle. Many people do not understand that people have different kinds of lifestyles individually. Everyone must not be the same.

If a particular guy in your place of work always like to squander his money and you prefer saving yours, they are two different lifestyles. When that lady pushes you to be like her and you do not want to, she may end up attacking you. The reason is because you people are different. The lifestyles differ. So, always throw some of their dirty words and statements away when they try to push you. They do not pay your bills.

Understanding is very important in life. I have seen people who got angry on another person just because the guy in question do not like going out late in the night. Anytime they called the guy late in the night to come to a particular bar and the guy refuses, they feel angry. As a result of this, they may begin to attack the guy with words when they meet in office. They may tell the guy that you are a woman and all sorts of bad statement. All these are because the young man did not allow them push him. People's lifestyles differ and because of that do not argue too much with someone that wants to push you to live their lives.

Do not argue with people always; source: Uzochukwu Mike's Zone

You don't have to Argue much

Argument has divided friends and families. Sometimes there is a level an argument will get to and it turns to quarrel. Yes that is the truth. Some people may push to the length that if you keep on responding to the rubbish they say, it ends up in quarrel. In many work places, people do not talk to one another again because of lengthy arguments that ended up to quarrel.

If they say that you suppose to fill your Facebook walls with your girlfriend's picture on her birthday to the level that your walls are totally covered with her pictures and you did not do so, do not argue too much. If they say you were not romantic enough to say sweet things about your girlfriend on social media sites for the world to see, still do not say much. No matter how they push you around and say you are too outdated, apply wisdom because some of them are like snakes. They would not do some things to high climax but they want the other to do so.

They easily forget that there are people that do not like to take their romance affairs social. They fail to understand that many relationships that went social sometime ago ended up in heartbreaks. You choose the kind of life you want to live and do not allow people choose them for you.

You are the best version of yourself. Do what is right and do not allow people to push you to do things you will live to regret tomorrow. When people push you just to laugh at you and you do not fall prey to their tricks, they become ashamed.